Tips for Surviving Two Under Two: Managing Life with a Toddler and a Newborn

We didn’t plan on having two children under two, but life had other plans! When my second baby arrived just 9 months after my first, it was a huge shock—especially as I had just returned to work. While it was challenging, I wouldn’t change a thing.

Having two children so close in age has many advantages. My children, George and Ivy, are 18 months apart, and while they have the usual sibling arguments, they also share many interests—from books and music to TV programs and activities. Being so close in age also meant we navigated tough phases like potty training and sleep regressions in “one go.”

Survival Mode: Early Tips for Managing Two Under Two

In the early days of having two under two, it’s all about survival. Celebrate small wins:

• Leaving the park without tantrums

• Getting your baby to sleep in a carrier while entertaining your toddler

• Completing bedtime with minimal tears

These wins may feel rare, but they are actually big victories!

Going Out with Two Under Two: Essential Tips for Parents

Going out with both children can feel overwhelming. Here are my top tips:

1. Prepare everything before getting them ready – highchairs, bouncers, and prams should be set up in advance.

2. Organized backpack – keep drinks, snacks, and a nappy changing pouch easily accessible.

3. Double pram – a second-hand Phil & Teds double pram allowed both children to nap at the same time.

4. Baby sling or carrier – a good sling (like a Baby Bjorn) makes playground trips easier.

5. Plenty of snacks – essential for keeping both children happy while out.

Managing Toddler and Newborn Naps When You Have Two Under Two

Toddlers typically have predictable nap routines, whereas newborns rarely have consistent schedules until 4–6 months.

✅ Tips for balancing naps:

• Prioritize your toddler’s nap schedule to prevent overtired meltdowns.

• Newborns can nap in a pram or carrier, making it easier to manage both children.

• For detailed guidance, see my toddler sleep course.

Bedtime Strategies for Parents of Two Under Two

Getting both children to sleep can feel impossible, but these strategies help:

• Keep your toddler’s bedtime routine consistent

• Time bedtime around your toddler’s needs

• Adjust toddler bedtime slightly later if needed

• Include the newborn safely in the bedtime routine

Lower Your Expectations During the Two Under Two Phase

When managing two under two, perfection isn’t the goal.

• Expect tears and meltdowns—it’s normal

• Focus on connection, comfort, and your wellbeing

• Celebrate small wins rather than striving for a flawless routine

Extra Support for Managing Two Under Two

If you’re struggling with toddler sleep after a new baby, check out my toddler sleep course for strategies on:

• Preparing your toddler for a new sibling

• Adjusting sleep routines for toddlers and newborns

• Managing siblings sharing a room